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A weekly diary that charts the highs, lows and seemingly endless struggles of IVF treatment. Because, yes, being a parent is the most important job in the world but the actual physical process of becoming a parent isn’t always textbook or straight forward. Join Denise Philips on her journey through IVF. When I was asked to write a background on myself my first thought was, were do I start? Do I tell people how hard I fought to have a baby the first time round? The unexplained infertility, the miscarriage, the 9 failed intrauterine inseminations (IUI), the 2 cancelled cycles or the fact I’m on my next IVF journey? Well here it goes…

My name is Denise Phillips. I married Mark at the age of 28, and off we set on our IVF journey, which was successful and we now have a daughter called Beth. Here we are again at 32 starting it all over again. The last time we told nobody as I felt like such a failure that I couldn’t have a baby that I was having multiple failed IUI’s. This time round its different: I’m allowing a camera crew to document my every move, from scans to tests to tears to breakdowns. I’m showing how I’m fighting for a baby.

What’s Next?

What’s Next?

I want to take this time to talk to you right from my heart, because you see I’m on a break. We’ve decided to wait until 2017 to transfer our frozen embryo. There are loads of reasons why and I want to explain them to you. I’ve already had a failed attempt in 2016 so I believe that we weren’t ... Read More »

Killer Cells Test Results

Killer Cells Test Results

Can I speak to Denise Phillips Please? This is the phone call I’ve been dreading for the last 2 weeks, 14 long days. You’d think at this stage I’d be used to it, but this one was very different. You see, I really struggled with doing this test, let alone getting the results. It took me 4 weeks to pluck ... Read More »

Week 10: How Mark feels about our IVF Journey

Week 10: How Mark feels about our IVF Journey

For better or worse, till death do us part, we’re in this together right? It takes two to make a baby, me and my hubbie, my IVF partner. Mark, will you write a blog post for loveparenting.ie this week? Not a chance. Ok so I came armed with a pen and paper. Will you answer some questions instead? He agrees. ... Read More »

Week 9: Natural Killers Blood Test

Week 9: Natural Killers Blood Test

I’m lying in my bed watching an Irish programme about IVF, it’s Tuesday night and my blood test is in the morning so I’m feeling nervous and very tired. Four couples all doing IVF in this programme and it’s all so raw for me. It’s only been four weeks since my failed IVF cycle! They speak of the struggle, the ... Read More »

Week 8: My IVF Meet Up

Week 8: My IVF Meet Up

I’m on a break, a well needed break, but that’s just from drugs and doctors. Not from the constant reminder that I’ve just had a failed IVF. It’s not a break from the constant reminder that I might never have another baby; it’s not a break from the constant reminder that I can’t conceive naturally and now I might not ... Read More »

Week 7: The Next Step on My IVF Journey

Week 7: The Next Step on My IVF Journey

Our decision to go ahead with the frozen transfer hasn’t been an easy one. Don’t get me wrong– we were always going to use our embryo but we didn’t think it would be so soon. Also, the decision to go ahead with the frozen transfer isn’t as easy as popping into the clinic for an hour procedure. First, you need ... Read More »

Week 6: IVF Journey & Negative Results

Week 6: IVF Journey & Negative Results

Negative result!!! Where do I begin? I hold the test in my hand and my heart is actually broken. I sob in Marks arms. Every time I do this it actually gets harder. So near yet so far. Our dreams have just been taken away yet again. But you’ve “already got a baby”, “be grateful for what you have”. I ... Read More »

Week 5: IVF Journey – Pregnant or not Pregnant?

Week 5: IVF Journey – Pregnant or not Pregnant?

The 2 week wait… oh where the heck do I begin? I actually think this is worse than any other part of my IVF journey. The timed days of doing injections shift to the long days of waiting. Every single thought goes through your head in the 2 weeks is about being pregnant or not. You see I believed that ... Read More »

Week 4: Counting days in IVF terms

Week 4: Counting days in IVF terms

Week 4: Counting days in IVF terms So the scans and bloods begin and Dr Lydia gave me my drug prescription, Stimulating has begun,14 days of up to 6 injections a day and  a bag of vitamins and tablets I’m ready for this, I actually find this the easy part as you’re busy doing everything you possibly can for your ... Read More »

Week 3: Why IVF Treatment?

Week 3: Why IVF Treatment?

Week 3: Why IVF? I had issues with my cycle from the get go; I started my period at 15 and started on the pill almost immediately. Although I obviously wasn’t sexually active yet my mother was scared! At 18 I fell pregnant and I was devastated. I was still a trainee hairdresser and felt too young and was so ... Read More »