For parents, Cyberbullying can be a very difficult problem to navigate with their child. Cyberbullying is a form of bullying that takes place through digital platforms such as social media, messaging apps, and online gaming. Cyberbullying involves using technology to harass, intimidate, or hurt others and can take various forms. Unlike traditional bullying, it can occur at any time, often making it more difficult to escape.
Cyberbullying can occur in many ways. Bullies can send hurtful messages or threats through emails or social media. Exclusion happens when someone is intentionally left out of online groups or activities, making them feel isolated. Bullies sometimes create fake accounts to spread lies or embarrassing content about another person. The sharing of personal information about another personal online without their consent is a form of cyberbullying – this includes the sharing of photos/videos. The term ‘trolling’ is used to describe leaving comments under online posts which are designed to provoke a response or deliberately upset others.
It can be difficult for parents to spot the signs of cyberbullying. Sudden changes in your child’s behaviour, such as withdrawal from online activities, an increased level of anxiety or low mood, low self-esteem or physical complaints like headaches, could be indicators that your child is experiencing cyberbullying. Increased secrecy around their digital devices or reluctance to talk about their online life are also possible signs of cyberbullying.
The emotional impact of cyberbullying can be severe. Victims often experience sadness, anxiety, embarrassment, and even anger. The relentless nature of cyberbullying makes it particularly harmful. Cyberbullying may also be of a public nature which can cause feelings of humiliation and isolation, as others may witness or participate in the bullying. In some cases the emotional impact of cyberbullying can persist long after the bullying itself has stopped.
If you believe your child is being cyberbullied, it’s best to approach them with understanding and reassurance. Let them know they are not at fault, and create a safe space for them to share their experiences. Praise your child for coming to speak to you about the problem. Sometimes that first step of asking for help is a difficult one. Try to stay calm and not overreact. Reassure your child by reminding them that many people have had similar experiences.
The first thing to do is to listen. Listen supportively, try not to interrogate your child. If they come to you looking for help, they have demonstrated trust in you. Be careful not to damage that by losing your cool or taking action that they are uncomfortable with. At the same time you should make it clear that in order to help them you may have to talk with their teachers and the parents of other children involved.
It is best not to reply or engage with the bully. Document the incident taking screenshots or saving messages, which can be useful if further action is needed. Encourage your child to block the bully and report the abuse to the digital platform. It is recommended that you report cyberbullying to the child’s school also. If the bullying persists and if it is considered illegal, you may need to contact the Gardaí for further support.
To prevent cyberbullying, help your child set strong privacy settings on social media and educate them about online safety. Open communication about their digital life is key to creating a supportive environment. Encourage children and teenagers to speak to you if they witness cyberbullying, not only if it affects them. Teaching kindness and respect in both online and offline interactions can also reduce the risk of cyberbullying.
Addressing cyberbullying requires awareness, support, and action. By staying vigilant and proactive, parents can help protect their children from the emotional damage caused by cyberbullying.
This article was written by Claire Bennett, Psychology Assistant with the HSE Primary Care Child and Family Service, Limerick.
